Are you considering or currently going through a Separation or Divorce?

Our Separation Support team can help you and your family during this emotional and often overwhelming time.

We help our clients gain the courage and confidence they need to get through, to

feel better educated on their options, well supported, organised, prepared and empowered.

Book a time with us now to discuss how we can help to support and guide you

in a less stressful and more affordable way xx

Blonde business woman in blue jacket and white top with crossed arms.

BOOK AN ONLINE APPOINTMENT

with our Experienced

Separation and Divorce Support Counsellor and Coach

Hello, I am Susan Crain and I have been working as a Separation and Divorce Support Counsellor and Coach for over 30 years. I have a background in law, counselling, psychology, mediation and coaching. I am a mother of three older teens/adults, a respite foster parent and pet lover. I love to dance (although not well) and live for a great beach walk and good book.

I am extremely passionate about offering much more affordable and genuinely supportive resources to people through each stage of this often difficult process - offering what my kind clients have said often feels like "a huge hug from beginning to end."

Whilst we don't discount the important role Family Lawyers may still play during a divorce, and will often help our clients engage lawyers if needed, we help our clients avoid a lot of unnecessary expense along the way and enable them to feel so much more in control of their decision making and outcomes because they are well guided, resourced and emotionally supported from the outset.

Our clients are often quite overwhelmed when they make initial contact but the transformation we witness by the end of our work together, gives me goosebumps to think about. It is so amazing. Feel free to read some of our client's lovely testimonials or social media updates.


When I am asked what is it that a Separation Support Coach and Counsellor does it is sometimes difficult to express the diverse range of help we provide our clients.

However, the most common areas of assistance would definitely be:

buy the ultimate divorce planner

If you are considering Separation, we can help you carefully plan and provide you with the support you need all the way.

Our clients describe the Planner as 'a hug throughout it all'

It will step you through the options, provide effective checklists, explain legal jargon, provide important communication strategies and tips, guidance on providing help for the children, financial negotiations and tips, strategies to remain safe and help you get back on your feet and space to add evidence and a years worth of diary entries to help you recall things more easily.

An image of "The Ultimate Divorce Planner" with various pages and tablet display.

  • Understand your legal options during separation and divorce

  • Develop a separation plan to help you feel organised, educated and empowered through the process

  • Ensure you have a safe exit strategy and can remain safe

  • Learn how to communicate with your spouse and children about separating

  • Understand how to protect your assets and secure your finances before separating

  • Record all your evidence and important dates and appointments in one place

  • Get organised with the practical and easy to follow checklists on what to prepare, what to locate and disclose

  • Self care strategies and wellness tips

enrol in the ultimate divorce course

Feeling confused? Do you need help understanding what to do next?

We've Got You!

This is one of the most comprehensive, easy to follow, practical and best value for money courses available in Australia. It has been carefully written by lawyers, mediators, psychologists, wellness experts and financiers to help you all the way.

Thousands of dollars worth of expert advice presented in an empathetic, organised, easy to follow way, which you can do at your own pace.

Older woman in beige sweater at a table with laptop, appearing stressed or tired.
  • Dealing with the emotional challenges of separation and divorce for you and the kids

  • How to co-parent with your former partner

  • Strategies for dealing with different personalities in families

  • Understand what it means legally to be separated and what to expect during separation

  • Understand your legal options to reach financial property and/or parenting arrangements and how to minimise your costs along the way

  • Create a comprehensive separation plan which is easy to follow and helps you feel more organised and in control

  • What documents do you need to locate, secure, disclose? or get from the other party?

  • Child and spousal support options

  • Guidance on legal document preparation

  • Budgeting and financial guidance

  • Prepare for mediation or trial, if required

  • How to deal with domestic violence concerns and safe exit planning

  • Counselling, coaching and communication strategies

  • Wellness and self care help

enrol in the Financial wellness Course

This exceptional course will help you gain a really practical and valuable understanding of banking, superannuation, budgeting, your financial position, how to keep your finances secure, how to ensure you get a fair financial settlement and financial planning for the future.

Get financial and legal expert advice and improve your long term financial position in order to better protect your future.

Brought to you by Separation Support Network &

award-winning financial adviser Helen Baker

Brunette woman in a blue shirt embracing a child in a home setting.

This easy to follow, practical and comprehensive guide will help you get it all together during your Separation, Divorce and beyond.

This is also a wonderful gift suggestion for anyone looking to support a family member or friend through separation/divorce. Each planner also comes with a small gift.

Thousands of dollars worth of advice for only $89.95 including postage within Australia.

An arrangement of "The Ultimate Divorce Planner" pages on a wooden surface.
Open section of "The Ultimate Divorce Planner" with pages on parenting tips, sitting on a wooden coffee table.

What do I do next to get help?

No matter where you are in the separation or divorce stage, we understand how hard it is, and we are here to support you. You are not alone.

We help reduce the stress by providing you with the education and practical guidance you need to understand all the options available to you.

We also carefully listen to you on what you want to do, to move forward. If you would like to arrange an online 30-minute complimentary mini session we can discuss where you are at and what help you feel you need, at your stage in the process. This just requires a Zoom connection.

We will be honest about what we can do to assist you to get the best outcome,  and give you a firm understanding of the costs associated with the help.  It will not be a sales pitch from us.

If you decide to proceed with Separation Support Network, you are welcome to book a PAID one-on-one confidential consultation with one of our highly trained senior separation support personnel. The first appointment will require a new client form to be completed and returned, to help us gain a better understanding of your position and to not waste your precious time.

As seen in our testimonials, we are renowned for having excellent relationships with our clients and are very conscious of providing quality, affordable services, all the way.

We take great pride in ensuring that every one of our service providers have your best interests at heart, emotionally and financially. Our motto is ‘providing our clients with a hug all the way.’

FAQ image

Why should I use Separation Support Network instead of going to a traditional law firm?

Separation Support Network provides one-on-one support to guide you through the entire separation and divorce process. We provide counselling support, help you navigate the immediate practical steps of your separation, listen to your unique circumstances, outline your options and recommend the services you need. We also provide help long term through your separation and divorce journey to reach your longer term goals.

We do have a panel of lawyers who can assist, if and when required, but we work with you to avoid legal costs as much as possible by helping you understand all your options, assist you to gather your documentation and evidence, draft your proposed terms, and coordinate other specialist support if required to support your position. This helps avoid a lot of the initial outlays you would normally experience in a law firm, which often charge very high legal costs, per hour, for their time. It also helps you avoid a lot of time, stress and frustration.

Once legal matters are resolved by traditional firms, our clients report they often feel a sense of confusion and concern about what comes next - on how to actually co-parent and fulfill the parenting obligations, how to deal with the financial arrangements that were agreed upon, where to obtain the necessary financial education to manage your settlement, and how to secure your financial future. There is often the need to get help to change other key legal and financial documents, strategies to assist with co-parenting and communication with former partners, sorting the sale of assets, access to counselling for the family, finding a new career or a plan on how to start the next chapter of life. Separation Support Network can walk beside you through all of this. We help you find the care you need and work collaboratively with a team who can assist.

Our aim is to ensure our clients are safe, emotionally supported all the way, personally educated and empowered to make their own decisions, and ultimately achieve a fair and equitable settlement, suitable parenting arrangement and successful future.

What range of support can you offer me?

The most common things said to us over the years by our clients:

"I am so confused about what to do next, where to get the help I need and who to trust."

"I can't work out what financial documents I even need to access and what I have to disclose ."

"I worked all my life to save and secure my superannuation and now we are going to destroy it with all the ongoing legal bills."

"I was a good parent and we had a great relationship but now I just can't reconnect with them."

We hear you!

Separation Support Network is essentially a one stop service network where you no longer need to spend countless hours finding the resources, locating kind and supportive care, legal and financial expertise, all at an affordable rate.

We work alongside incredibly experienced, supportive specialists who share our values in making the separation and divorce process more amicable, more empowering, more supportive and more affordable.

  • Mediators

  • Psychologists and counsellors

  • Parent assist programmes

  • Empower programmes

  • Lawyers

  • Domestic Violence support

  • Financial Planners and Advisors

  • Property Valuers including farming valuers

  • Banking advice

  • Business and Company valuers

  • Forensic Accounting and IT

  • Private Investigators

  • Accountants

  • Mortgage Brokers

  • Business brokers

  • Conveyancing and Will and Estate Planning support

  • Life Coaches

  • High Conflict Coaches 

  • Career assist - resumes, job applications and interview preparation.

  • Empower You programmes

Our clients have also reached out and requested that we prepare practical and affordable resources including audio/visual podcasts and webinars which consist of easy to understand, questions and answers to many of the day-to-day issues that they experience, but don’t know how to do. These can be booked and listened to at any time, anywhere by our clients. A transcript is also provided for our paid webinars.

In late 2024, Separation Support Network will release a series of highly practical webinars for all our clients at a very affordable price which can be viewed any time, anywhere as part of our new Separation and Divorce course.

These webinars are not just made up of general information about topics. They are step by step practical guides on how to get through this challenging process to ensure your safety and legal rights.

We have interviewed some of the leading experts on these most sought after topics and hope that you find the content understandable, relatable and invaluable.  Please feel free to reach out anytime to suggest additional topics you would like us to add to our webinar library or to add to our course.

FAQ image

What is your cancellation and refund policy?

Given the nature of our support services, last minute cancellations are costly, and it means that other clients may miss out on receiving the required support.  For cancellations within 48 hours of the scheduled appointment there is a $65 part fee payment. For less than 24 hours cancellation notice or a non-show, the full session fee will need to be charged. These fees are refunded however if the session can be filled at the last minute. Thank you for your understanding.


Have a question that we haven’t answered? Or just want to chat please book here

copy of will

Separating? Update your Will now!

January 23, 20258 min read

Separating? Update your Will and Enduring Power of Attorney ASAP!

I know it is probably the last thing you are considering right now amongst all the other issues you are dealing with during your separation, but there are a number of key documents which you should seriously consider drafting and/or updating as soon as you reasonably can after you separate in order to ensure your wishes are correctly and respectfully fulfilled, your intended beneficiaries are legally protected and the appropriate executors and guardians are appointed. In particular, you need to update your personal details, wishes/intentions, trustee/executor/guaradians, general instructions and nominated beneficiaries under any Trusts, Life Insurance, Superannuation, Enduring/Power of Attorney, Will, and your Health Directives.

For the purposes of this blog, we will be specifically addressing your Will and Enduring Power of Attorney and the importance of drafting and/or amending these at the time of your separation (whether married or defacto).

Why do I need a Will?

Even if you don’t think you have a lot of assets to leave behind to anyone, having a Will is very important. The Will appoints an executor to administer your estate (ie to carry out the instructions in your will) and outlines who the beneficiaries will be, how your property and personal items should be distributed. The executor is normally someone who is trustworthy, financially responsible, organised and respected by the beneficiaries.

The Will also usually specifies who the guardians of any minor children or dependants would be.

Without a Will, your estate may not be distributed according to your preferences, and your loved ones could face a lot of added stress, time and costs in settling your affairs.

Potential tax and stamp duty benefits of an effective Estate Plan

You can obtain a number of benefits by having an effective estate plan for example setting up a Testamentary Trust within your Will which can have significant tax benefits and transfer of titles to reduce or avoid stamp duty being paid. We recommend you seek advice regarding this.

What if I have a Will but it is not updated?

• There can be unintended consequences such as your assets going to unintended beneficiaries, (including your former partner and their family) important details being left out, or taxes being higher than they need to be.

• Certain changes in laws and regulations could make certain provisions of your outdated Will or Enduring Power of Attorney invalid or ineffective.

• You want to avoid potential disputes among beneficiaries and delay the intended beneficiaries getting access to your estate and wasting huge sums on contesting the Will.

• You want to ensure the executor of your own Will and any trustee under a Trust, is someone you still trust to fulfil their duties and carry out your wishes.

Can a Separation affect my Will?

If you were married or in a de facto relationship and had a valid Will leaving some or all of your estate to your then spouse/partner, even if you are then later separated at the time of your death, the contents of your existing Will would usually still be valid and your former spouse/partner would still receive their entitlement under the Will.

If you are legally separated, but not yet legally divorced at the time of your death, your former spouse may also still act as your estate's executor (if you had appointed them as such under your Will), thus manging the administration of your estate, whether you wanted them to or not.

The situation is different where there is no Will. In that case, the laws of intestacy apply to determine whether or not a spouse (married or de facto) has an entitlement to any part of their partner's estate. Whilst not guaranteed, you should note that there is a strong chance that without a WIll, your former spouse will potentially inherit everything under the laws of intestacy.

Is my Will still valid after we are divorced?

In all Australian states and territories, except for Western Australia, a divorce order will not usually revoke all of your Will but it will in most instances revoke any appointments (executor, beneficiary, trustee) or clauses under the Will which refer to your former spouse. Therefore, if you had for instance appointed your spouse to act as your executor or you named them as a beneficiary, they will no longer be able to act as your executor, nor will they receive any gifts you left them, following a legal divorce.

However, it should be noted that if your Will was not updated following your divorce and you die, there can still be some exceptions to consider where the court may not revoke part of the Will and decide in favour of your former spouse if they can be convinced you clearly intended for a specific clause to still relate to a former spouse. The court will often also decide in favour of your former spouse if you have appointed them to as at the trustee of property you have left to your children as beneficiaries under the Will.

it is therefore highly recommend you update your Will to avoid any confusion, misinterpretation by the court, conflict or loss of intent. Get legal assistance.

Why have an Enduring Power of Attorney?

An Enduring Power of Attorney (EPA), is also a very important legal document as it allows you to appoint someone you really trust to legally act on your behalf, if you lose your mental capacity or ability to communicate. The EPA can make decisions about your personal matters, your health (including support services, treatments and health care, where and with whom you live), your finances (including paying expenses and taxes, making investments, collecting your income, selling property, carrying on a business etc). This is especially important in situations if you were unfortunately incapacitated due to dementia, a stroke, brain injury, an illness, or an accident. You may also want to choose a primary power of attorney and also name a backup person in case the primary is unable to fuflil their duties.

You appoint an 'Attorney' under a EPA but that does not need to be a lawyer. You can select a relative, friend, professional person such as your accountant, or someone else you trust and believe to have the necessarily ability to carry out your wishes and manage your affairs. This person's decisions will have the same legal power as if you had made them yourself, so choose wisely.

We often recommend to our clients to clearly set out with their Will specific instructions to help the executor and/or guardian including:

what medical treatment you want to receive if you were to be incapacitated;

o where all your important family and financial documents are kept for the executor to access and contact details of any person they deal with including specific bank, finance, insurance, financial planner, financial advisor, stockbroker, accountant, lawyer;

o  a wish list - setting out your hopes for the children in the future (for example, if my finances permit I would like them to attend x school, have continued contact with relatives y and z, to continue being raised in x religion etc)

Why have an Advanced Health Directive?

Another useful document is an Advanced Health Directive.

At some point in the future, you may be unable to make decisions about your health care, even temporarily. This might be due to an accident, dementia, stroke or a mental illness.

An advance health directive allows you to:

  • give directions about your future health care

  • make your wishes known and give health professionals direction about the treatment you want

  • appoint someone you trust (an attorney) to make decisions about health care on your behalf.

The best time to make an advance health directive is now, before any urgent health condition arises. However, it’s particularly important to make one if:

  • you’re about to be admitted to hospital

  • your medical condition is likely to affect your ability to make decisions

  • you have a chronic medical condition that could cause serious complications (e.g. diabetes, asthma and heart or kidney disease).

Before you complete an advance health directive, you should:

  • think about your views, wishes and preferences for your future health care

  • talk to your family and friends

  • talk to your doctor—they

    • will have access to your medical history

    • can help you understand how a particular illness may affect you

    • can discuss treatment options and the effects of those treatments

  • if you plan to appoint an Enduring Power of Attorney for health matters, consider who you want to appoint and talk to them about it.

Ongoing review of your Will and Enduring Power of Attorney

Having updated your Will and Enduring Power of Attorney and had it appropriately witnessed, (and destroyed the original one) it is always good practice to review them annually (we always suggest around tax time as a good reminder) as unexpected life events can continue to have flow on effects to your Will and the need to potentially amend it (for example if anyone mentioned in the Will changes their name, the executor or guardian is no longer able to fulfil their obligations, a beneficiary under the WIll passes or their family situation changes, any specific item mentioned in the Will has now been sold/lost or has changed in nature, you become involved in a new business, company or trust or change your residence to another State or country).

We also recommend you regularly review where copies of your most current Will and Enduring Power of Attorney are stored - ideally in a safe custody box and the executor is aware of where a copy of the latest Will is kept.

As busy and potentially overwhelmed as you may be feeling, these documents are really important to consider. If you need assistance preparing any of these documents, please reach out to make an appointment with our Wills & Estates specialist to ensure you have accurately protected your assets and can fulfill your wishes through an affordable Wills & Estates Package.

Email us today at [email protected]

Back to Blog

To receive helpful tips, podcast reviews, book reviews, offers, course discounts and other useful resources to better support you through the maze.

Find and follow us on socials

We are committed to protecting your personal information and respecting your privacy. This website uses cookies to analyze website traffic and optimise your website experience. By accepting our use of cookies, your data will be aggregated with all other user data.

DISCLAIMER: The material contained on this website is for general educational and information purposes only and is not a substitute for professional legal, financial, medical or psychological advice or care. While every care has been taken in the information provided, no legal responsibility or liability is accepted, warranted or implied by the authors or Separation Support Network and any liability is hereby expressly disclaimed. For specific advice please contact us at [email protected]. All information contained on the website remains the intellectual property of Separation Support Network and is for your personal educational use only. The information must not be reproduced or distributed without the express permission of Separation Support Network.

We are committed to providing an inclusive and accessible environment where people and communities of all identities and backgrounds are accepted, safe and celebrated.

Privacy Policy | Terms and Conditions

© Separation Support Network 2023 | Website Design by Fancy Freedom