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Tackling Stress Head On
Building Your Resilience to help you cope through the tough times
Everyone goes through tough times in life. There are some stressful situations we can avoid completely and others which are an inevitable part of life – work, children, relationships, money, health challenges. Without the right tools, stress can cause wear and tear on the body and brain and can increase the risk of many health conditions including heart disease, high blood pressure, depression, and anxiety.
How we deal with stress can be very personal, and not every coping strategy suits each person, but it is about learning some strategies that work for you, being self-aware that the stress levels are climbing, and then employing the strategies in a timely way (before too overwhelmed) to reduce the impact of that stress, that will help you avoid the serious impacts on wellness.
Resilience is defined as the extent to which we can bounce back from adverse events, cope with stress, or succeed in the face of adversity. It is not something you are born with. It is more a result of how family, community, and cultural practices—interact. It boosts wellness and protects you from risks to your well-being.
Resilience isn’t just about eliminating stress but more about really leaning in to your own strengths, and finding those protective measures in your life to help cope with the often inevitable stress and to support your own well-being.
Research has indicated that the essential tool box items to help deal with stress and build resilience are:
· Exercise – doesn’t matter how.
· Get some sunshine and play upbeat music.
· Feed your body with healthy options and reducing reliance on alcohol, smoking and/or drugs.
· Express your emotions rather than bottling them up.
· Change your mindset and try to look at a stressful situation as a growth opportunity instead of thinking of it as a threat.
· Say no more often and focus on you - Meeting your own self-care needs rather than aways being the empath and giver.
· Try to find even one small thing every day to enjoy and take time out for YOU! DO NOT feel guilty about that – you are of no use to anyone else you care for if you have exhausted your own emotional energy! Adults who take time for themselves can better help nurture resilience in children.
· Find your people, community and resources - resilience doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Find your support network. At work, school, church, exercise class, in your cultural network? Who can help build your inner strengths and strategies to deal with life challenges?
Write down a few times you were highly stressed before and reflect on:
- what has previously helped you when you were stressed?
- how did you dealt with it?
- who could you count on?
”In 2011 my daughter was incredibly ill and we did not know if she would be brain damaged and/or able to walk again. I was in the middle of a large work project and renovations at the time and had two small children. I don’t recall ever feeling as stressed. I had never done much long distance running before, but I got an awesome playlist together, bought some running shoes and started slowly jogging/shuffling my way around the suburb. The music, sun, greetings from neighbours and the exercise were my saviour that year. I still use these strategies today to get through my toughest times.” Susan
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What do I do next to get help?
No matter where you are in the separation or divorce stage, we understand how hard it is, and we are here to support you. You are not alone.
We help reduce the stress by providing you with the education and practical guidance you need to understand all the options available to you.
We also carefully listen to you on what you want to do, to move forward. If you would like to arrange an online 30-minute complimentary mini session we can discuss where you are at and what help you feel you need, at your stage in the process. This just requires a Zoom connection.
We will be honest about what we can do to assist you to get the best outcome, and give you a firm understanding of the costs associated with the help. It will not be a sales pitch from us.
If you decide to proceed with Separation Support Network, you are welcome to book a PAID one-on-one confidential consultation with one of our highly trained senior separation support personnel. The first appointment will require a new client form to be completed and returned, to help us gain a better understanding of your position and to not waste your precious time.
As seen in our testimonials, we are renowned for having excellent relationships with our clients and are very conscious of providing quality, affordable services, all the way.
We take great pride in ensuring that every one of our service providers have your best interests at heart, emotionally and financially. Our motto is ‘providing our clients with a hug all the way.’
Why should I use Separation Support Network instead of going to a traditional law firm?
Separation Support Network provides one-on-one support to guide you through the entire separation and divorce process. We provide counselling support, help you navigate the immediate practical steps of your separation, listen to your unique circumstances, outline your options and recommend the services you need. We also provide help long term through your separation and divorce journey to reach your longer term goals.
We do have a panel of lawyers who can assist, if and when required, but we work with you to avoid legal costs as much as possible by helping you understand all your options, assist you to gather your documentation and evidence, draft your proposed terms, and coordinate other specialist support if required to support your position. This helps avoid a lot of the initial outlays you would normally experience in a law firm, which often charge very high legal costs, per hour, for their time. It also helps you avoid a lot of time, stress and frustration.
Once legal matters are resolved by traditional firms, our clients report they often feel a sense of confusion and concern about what comes next - on how to actually co-parent and fulfill the parenting obligations, how to deal with the financial arrangements that were agreed upon, where to obtain the necessary financial education to manage your settlement, and how to secure your financial future. There is often the need to get help to change other key legal and financial documents, strategies to assist with co-parenting and communication with former partners, sorting the sale of assets, access to counselling for the family, finding a new career or a plan on how to start the next chapter of life. Separation Support Network can walk beside you through all of this. We help you find the care you need and work collaboratively with a team who can assist.
Our aim is to ensure our clients are safe, emotionally supported all the way, personally educated and empowered to make their own decisions, and ultimately achieve a fair and equitable settlement, suitable parenting arrangement and successful future.
What range of support can you offer me?
The most common things said to us over the years by our clients:
"I am so confused about what to do next, where to get the help I need and who to trust."
"I can't work out what financial documents I even need to access and what I have to disclose ."
"I worked all my life to save and secure my superannuation and now we are going to destroy it with all the ongoing legal bills."
"I was a good parent and we had a great relationship but now I just can't reconnect with them."
We hear you!
Separation Support Network is essentially a one stop service network where you no longer need to spend countless hours finding the resources, locating kind and supportive care, legal and financial expertise, all at an affordable rate.
We work alongside incredibly experienced, supportive specialists who share our values in making the separation and divorce process more amicable, more empowering, more supportive and more affordable.
Mediators
Psychologists and counsellors
Parent assist programmes
Empower programmes
Lawyers
Domestic Violence support
Financial Planners and Advisors
Property Valuers including farming valuers
Banking advice
Business and Company valuers
Forensic Accounting and IT
Private Investigators
Accountants
Mortgage Brokers
Business brokers
Conveyancing and Will and Estate Planning support
Life Coaches
High Conflict Coaches
Career assist - resumes, job applications and interview preparation.
Empower You programmes
Our clients have also reached out and requested that we prepare practical and affordable resources including audio/visual podcasts and webinars which consist of easy to understand, questions and answers to many of the day-to-day issues that they experience, but don’t know how to do. These can be booked and listened to at any time, anywhere by our clients. A transcript is also provided for our paid webinars.
In late 2024, Separation Support Network will release a series of highly practical webinars for all our clients at a very affordable price which can be viewed any time, anywhere as part of our new Separation and Divorce course.
These webinars are not just made up of general information about topics. They are step by step practical guides on how to get through this challenging process to ensure your safety and legal rights.
We have interviewed some of the leading experts on these most sought after topics and hope that you find the content understandable, relatable and invaluable. Please feel free to reach out anytime to suggest additional topics you would like us to add to our webinar library or to add to our course.
What is your cancellation and refund policy?
Given the nature of our support services, last minute cancellations are costly, and it means that other clients may miss out on receiving the required support. For cancellations within 48 hours of the scheduled appointment there is a $65 part fee payment. For less than 24 hours cancellation notice or a non-show, the full session fee will need to be charged. These fees are refunded however if the session can be filled at the last minute. Thank you for your understanding.
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